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Dear Sugar,
I know this isn’t what a lot of men would open up about, but it has gotten to that point where I think I need help on the matter. My wife and I haven’t had sex for over a year now. At first, I felt I could understand it (she had a lot of complications during our first and only childbirth), but now I’m starting to ache a lot.
I love her so much and I honestly, wouldn’t want to destroy my marriage by cheating, I have resorted to other alternatives, but I am starting to get tired. I really miss our love life… how do I get her interested again?
N.L
Dear N.L,
Being unable to get back your love life in marriage can put a lot of dent and strain in your relationship. It's great that you understand that for some women, the healing process takes a little bit longer after childbirth. It's possible your wife may have incurred a lot of stress during and after childbirth. It's also possible she may hate her current state of mind.
In this regard, you will have to take extra measures to ease her back into herself. You should consider taking a weekend vacation (have family and friends take care of your baby during this weekend). Your activities should include a spa treatment, saying sweet words to her, a body massage and sex games all driven to make her relaxed. With her stress levels reduced, the chances of having a great time in bed together are high.
Wishing you the very best!
Love,
Sugar