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You may wonder if there is an explanation for things like this when they happen, you begin to ask a lot of questions as to why your best friend did not invite you for his/her wedding but invited everyone else.
There is no good way to defend it as it can be hurtful because before a friend is tagged 'close'; a lot of things must have been shared, sacrificed and celebrated so why now?
It might not even be your best friend, it could be a cousin or niece/nephew you cherish so much. To handle the negative feeling that washes over you when you are not invited to the wedding of someone special you have to:
1. Clear your mind
Do not stress over the situation so much and try your best to let go of the anger; the level of the friendship also determines the reaction. You might just be close friends and can shrug the omission off or you can be childhood best friends and it might hurt differently.
Do not decide to be petty or concoct a revenge plan because at the end of the day, as much as it will be quite difficult to stop yourself from overreacting, you have to take a deep breath and remember that it is your best friend’s wedding/celebration and they can decide who comes in and out of their affairs as it was never about you, to begin with.
Do not go to social media to tweet about the woes of friendship when you see pictures of the couple because it is not a worldwide affair so stay calm and keep to yourself till you are ready to talk to your friend about
it.
2. Communicate
Call your best friend before the wedding and ask if you have done something wrong or disappointed in any way because sometimes he/she might have had temporary amnesia and another thing is you might consider him/her as your best friend but you are just a good friend to them and they do not have you on the list of ‘first call
friends’.
If you do not get the opportunity to communicate before the wedding, you can reach out after the wedding to clear the air because being aloof would do no good because your best friend will go on to live happily ever after as if nothing wrong happened. You have to bring it to his/her notice and you will get to truly know where things went south.
3. Kiss and make/break up
After having the conversation, forgive and move on if it is not a big deal to you because, to be honest, there is no excuse your best friend can proffer that will sound reasonable or acceptable to you except her pastor told him/her that you are a future nemesis to their marriage. If the whole situation created a dent in your ‘best friendship’, you can still kiss, shake hands and move on with your life and love your friend from afar.