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Love alone is never enough to sustain a relationship. Most times we try to hold on to a relationship because we love the person notwithstanding the many red flags.
Below are glaring signs to know when it is time to move on from a relationship.
Physical/verbal abuse:
Abuse of any form is a definite no-no. No matter how the abuser tries to make up for the act, there is something wrong and deep inside that person that needs addressing. Without a doubt in my mind, you should end a relationship if your partner is abusive or manipulative.
Infidelity:
Infidelity is prevalent nowadays especially since the advent of social media and dating apps, making finding a sex partner easy. But if one is in a monogamous relationship, they should be committed only to their partner. If you can't handle a cheating partner, it's best to end things with them.
Transparency is a big deal:
Without trust and honesty, there can be no true relationship. If your partner is increasingly devaluing transparency or open communication, it is a sign that they are being dishonest and most likely cheating.
Devoid of accountability and responsibility:
Lovers must be responsible and accountable to each other. If your partner never takes ownership of their wrongdoings, do not apologize genuinely and try to do better, then they don't deserve you.
Recurring issues:
Mistakes are bound to happen in every relationship, we forgive each other and hopefully, forget. However, if it is something that you feel is within their grasp to change and in turn, make your life happier together and they refuse any effort, and that particular loop keeps playing out, time and again, then it is a clear sign that the relationship is not meant to be. We should want our partner to be happy.
One-way traffic:
The reality of every relationship is that there is always that one partner that puts in a bit more effort than the other. But if one party is constantly putting in all the work to keep the relationship going, then there is an imbalance and it is time to ponder over the future of the relationship.
Different fundamental values:
Core values of lovers need to bear a certain similarity enough to keep them together. Their fundamental values are akin to the roots of a tree that help to hold the tree firmly in the ground. Compromising on your values may keep the relationship going for a while but at some point will only make you miserable and things can go downhill from there.
More pain than joy:
You are not expected to be happy all the time in a relationship, it is never perfect. But if your relationship leaves you frustrated/unhappy more often than not, maybe it is time to move on from it.
Stifling growth:
In a healthy relationship, you build each other up and have each other's back. A relationship that hinders one or both parties from growing is never the best one for you. A real relationship should enable you to achieve your goals, both personal and collective.
Nostalgia:
Things should grow deeper and become stronger over time. If you only rely on memories and new ones are seeming hard to create then there is the need to start prospecting a new future.
Though, if you have recently been putting a lot of thought into breaking up with your partner, that is a pretty good indicator that you should.