Hmmn! How long is too long to wait to get engaged?
We can't do justice to this question if we don’t paint certain scenarios or may be agree on when the waiting period should officially start.
Some people start to date very early in secondary school, some immediately they get to the university, some when they are almost done with their university education, some during their national service, some while they are working and some while they own their businesses.
I mean, that’s from age 14 above.
Keeping that in mind, we will avoid using number of years to answer the question; as six (6) years of waiting is insignificant to secondary school lady while the same six (6) years is likely too long for a working class lady.
Generally speaking, the answer is YES if you've been dating for at least one (1) year AND any of the scenarios below are true:
- Both of you or maybe he at least has a stable source of income and can feed, house and cloth three or may be even four people. (Lol)
- Both of you have been ‘serious’ for at least eight (8) months. Meaning in the last eight (8) months of your dating; you have had discussions like finance, marriage, children, career, have met both families - and they seem to like your individual choices of a partner.
- All his friends are getting married and for no clear reason(s) you can’t place your finger on why he doesn’t want to take that step. (Simply put - the only reason he isn’t engaged/married is because he isn’t asking you to).
Likewise, waiting too long for anything is when there isn’t progress and you are just stuck on the same spot for no apparent reason.
This article isn't meant to trigger any form of pressure, fear or, anger but rather help you think deeply about your relationship as well as heighten your awareness to any potential problems. Good luck!
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