Dear Sugar,
My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 8 years now but just started dating about 3 months ago, we were school mates and haven't been in touch since we left school. He found me on Facebook and we started dating from there.
Now he thinks I do not have a good sense of humour, when he says things he finds funny and i don't, its a problem. He is a very intelligent guy and I love him but we always disagree when I misuse words. I feel as friends or lovers, I should be ale to use words as I like. We haven't seen each other though since we started dating cause we are in different states, he was supposed to come over to my state and still has not done that, (I understand he is busy though). He has asked me if I would marry him (on the phone) and I told him to come over so we talk in person. I also observed that little things I say trigger him to get angry to which he always responds with SILENCE. Please Sugar, help me because I need to know if I am in the right relationship or I should just move on..
I await your quick response. Thanks so much.
Susan.
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Hello Susan,
You have been dating for only 3 months all of which has been long distance. You haven't said what the 'little things' you say to trigger him are, so I can't really say whether he's overreacting or not.
However, based on your description, he comes off as rather condescending - you say he's easily upset by what he considers an absence of a sense of humour and your bad grammar. It raises the question, if he wants to marry you so quickly, why is he so irritated by you? Is he planning on 'managing' you for as long as you both shall live? And do you really want to be 'managed' or loved and appreciated'? Ultimately, I say give yourselves more time to get to know each other before you take things to the next step i.e. marriage. Good luck!