My parents have never had an argument in front of me or any of my siblings, I used to think that this was the case with every relationship and that with love and patience any relationship would work. No one goes into a marriage with the intention of divorce, No one thinks that will happen to them. However with divorce and separations at an all time high, it is unrealistic to expect a "happily ever after" ending without hiccups and in some cases major road blocks along the way.
Each time I attend a bridal shower, I hear the usual advise to the bride, "be patient", "be respectful", "cook everyday" (huh?), "don't start what you can't finish", "be prayerful"......etc. Whilst all these are great pieces of advise, often given with the best of intentions, everything boils down to the two people involved and their levels of commitment. Simply put, love is not enough.
Ok so I lied, there's no 'secret' to a successful marriage, but I've compiled inspirational quotes on love and marriage from some of my favourite couples.
"The heart of marriage is memories; and if the two of you happen to have the same ones and can savor your reruns, then your marriage is a gift from the gods." - Camille and Bill Cosby
"Macel and I decided years ago, we are going to do whatever we have to to make this marriage work. It's been 42 years now... and we are committed to another 42, or whatever God allows ... I never have to guess how Macel feels about something - she tells me! ... Learn to talk without fighting. You can win the argument and lose your marriage! Marriage is a relationship, not a contest. There are no winners, unless you both win! Talk together, pray together, then play together." - Jerry and Macel Falwell”
"I never worry about things I can't affect, and with fidelity ... that is between Barack and me, and if somebody can come between us, we didn't have much to begin with." - Michelle and Barack Obama
"You have to keep creating a marriage. We talk about everything. We grow and change together, because nothing ever stays the same; you've got to continue evolving." - Kelly and John Travolta
So, what's the secret to your successful marriage?