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You have been together for a while and have decided to take the relationship to the next level which is marriage but you have not had the important talk with your significant other instead you are sweeping everything under the carpet and acting all Jack and Rose like you have no issues in life.
Why get married?
Most people want to get married because they have been dating for a long time and believe that the next thing to do is to get married to prevent tongues from wagging. You and your partner have to know why either of you wants to get married to each other.
Childbearing
You have to know if your partner wants to have children you cannot go around making decisions thinking you can decide for your partner. If your partner wants kids then you have to agree on the number of kids and also discuss the point in your marriage you want to start having kids. If there are step kids in the picture you have to discuss ways to make the family a big happy one.
Finances
This is important as it causes a lot of issues among couples so you have to cover all grounds. You have to discuss pending debts and ways to sort it out, also discuss the financial goals you have and ways you both can achieve them. Lastly, you have to discuss how financial responsibilities will be shared.
Deal breakers
Talk about you deal breakers with your partner
Alone time
Lone time is necessary some times to clear your head and relax even after marriage. Discuss how much alone time you will need.
Sex
This is also important, you have to talk about your sex life with your partner get to know the things that turn him/her on. Get to what your partner likes because if you keep running away from the topic you will be shocked when you find yourself married to a dominatrix and you become disappointed. This is the time to lay all your sexual fantasies on the table.
Conflict resolution
When issues arise between you and your partner how will they be resolved will you work out on your partner or become violent or keep mute. These are questions that need answers and you can only get that by talking with your partner.
Spiritual and Religious beliefs
You have to let your partner know where you stand spiritually/religiously; will it be a big issue, will the kids be raised in a certain type of religious setting, do you have the same religious belief as your partner if no how are you planning to make it work in marriage?
You have to sort out the aforementioned before taking the trip to forever because turning back will be stressful and painful.