Friendships after marriage end up being a bit more complicated. A big change like marriage is a true test of friendship. Want to know how tight you and your girl really are? See how close you remain after one of you gets hitched. Here are some truths about friendships after marriage that you can relate with:
Less Sleeping Over
You definitely will not have the opportunity to have slumber parties in the post-wedding era because your married friends will be occupied and embracing family life. It doesn’t disappear totally as sleep overs will mostly be done when the married friend’s spouse is not around, so they’ll be few and far between- even fewer and farther when the babies come.
Filtered Communication
This does not happen with all friendships but do not expect your married spouse to let you in on every single detail about her new relationship phase. Let her get acquainted with her new situation until she’s comfortable to talk about her marriage. If at all this happens, it may take a while depending on your closeness.
No More Spontaneous Trips
Craving a spontaneous ladies’ getaway? The single friends will still have the opportunity to do this, but the married ladies in the group will have to plan around their husband and kids’ schedule. It tests friendships. The single girls usually don’t bother inviting the married one because they’re sure it’s not practical; and the married one feels excluded and let down. Boom, a rift. So, if any of the ladies in your group just got married, prepare for a change!
Changed Values and Responsibility
The truth about friendships after marriage is that even though some people may remain friends; the married ones will have to adjust to a new life. Their personal and financial plans may change as well as they sort out new living arrangements and allow room for any contingencies. Such changes may take form in early nights, fewer shopping sprees, planned family holidays instead of the usual girls’ trip and a calmer, more nurturing demeanour.
Cold Turkey Communication
Let’s face it, some friendships just die. It is usually the case of the single friend reaching out and the married friend not reciprocating especially after all the wedding festivities and bridesmaid duties. The truth is, married friends tend to receive a special kind of culture shock as they enter their new life. It can be a lot to adjust to. However for some, their friendships with single people have reached the end of their useful life after fulfilling all bridal train responsibilities. This is sad, but true. Look back on your experience; are you guilty?
Can you relate with these truths about friendships after marriage? Remember, friendships are intentional and should be based on mutual trust in whatever phase it is.
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