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After being in a relationship for so long, you may be wondering why he hasn't popped the question yet. You also don't want him to feel pressured or portray yourself as desperate. Before you start overthinking the reasons, here are some very plausible reasons to why he hasn't proposed yet.
- He's not mentally ready
With all of the societal constructs about stages and marriage, it leaves most people in confusion. Getting mentally ready is dependent on the individual. Some take longer than others, maybe he is not mentally ready yet. He may also have enough reason to back it up. Perhaps, he has had friends complain about the discomfort associated with marriage. Let's face it; marriage is something you have to be mentally prepared for.
- He's too comfortable
A lot of times, your boyfriend may not have figured out the need to be married. He may be enjoying the freedom and independence that the relationship brings. Marriage, at the moment, maybe a choking state of mind for him. Unless you're comfortable with this, try explaining that marriage brings this and more. It doesn't necessarily change everything.
- He has a bucket list of goals
Marriage can be overwhelming and when kids come in, you don't have the time for yourselves. He may have personal plans and goals he's trying to reach. When he has some career goals he's trying to reach, it makes him focus more on that than the relationship. It's possible he would want to wait for all of these to happen before he proposes to you.
- He's saving up
All the ceremony that comes with marriage is not cheap. He may be saving up to buy the rings and for the wedding ceremony. If you're getting this vibe from him, try to hint at cheaper wedding rings. Explain to him that you'll be fine with a simple wedding and an openness to supporting him.
- He's not financially secure yet
Most men are very particular about being financially stable before getting married. It will be delusional to take off the importance of finances in marriage especially if you plan on having kids. Most men would want to be able to fully support their family. In the case where he's still finding it difficult to pay his bills, adding a wife is not part of his top priority.