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The aftermath of a breakup is usually tough but what no one prepares you for is the period after you’ve gotten over your last relationship. There is no one-size-fits-all approach towards preparing mentally for a new relationship but a few of these pointers may eventually raise your spirits:
Date Yourself
Yes, take yourself out on a date to the movies, the arcade, and bowling or even for a meal if you enjoy wining and dining. When you do this, you are building experiences and taking your mind off the ones you previously had with your ex.
If you can’t do this right now because of social distancing and isolation protocols, think about watching movies and series on Netflix, playing games online or ordering your favourite gourmet food for a solo night in.
Pamper Time
Dwell by grooming yourself and looking your best. Spend quality time caring for your hair, nails and skin. You also have the option to pamper yourself at home by buying the best hair care products, essential oils for massages and nail grooming kits for manicures and pedicures.
Self- Development
Before you get into a new relationship, it may be a great idea to invest time in self-development to tick off some boxes on your growth and developmental list. Have you registered for that new course you have been postponing? Maybe you want to read some self-help or industry-specific books that will guide your next business or career step.
For personal development, also create a list of non-negotiable things that you would never compromise on in your next relationship. Its time to create and raise your standard of worth so that you protect and meet your expectations going forward.
Immerse Yourself In A Hobby
A hobby actually makes you feel happy and what you need right now may be endorphins (happy hormones). Your hobby could be intellectual or physical; a lot of people enjoy physical activity and get into a hobby that will physically and mentally challenge them.
Run The Cycle Of Your Feelings
Ultimately, it will take you a while to get over your ex-partner. Cry if you have to and run through the cycle of emotions associated with breaking up with someone; sadness, longing for them, despising them and then not feeling anything at all.
It is not good to have residual feelings for an ex while starting a new relationship with someone brand new. This is essential to avoid a rebound.
Are you really ready for that new relationship?