Getting along with your partner's friends is not only important for your spouse, it is also vital for your relationship. You may be the most important person in your spouse’s life, but their friends have an impact in their life and in your relationship, like it or not. Instead of telling your partner you don’t like them, or simply keeping your distance, here’s how to get along with your partner’s friends.
Accept them the way they are
The simple truth is that we all can’t be the same because we are all different. This fact also applies to your partner’s friends. Unless they are an actual danger to your spouse or you have evidence that they mean harm, you should accept them just the way they are, flaws and all. When you do this, you will be able to understand them and relate to them better.
Don’t worry too much about making a good impression
When you focus too much on trying to make a good impression, you tend to act fake and inauthentic. Your partner’s friends will easily notice this and it won’t look good. They may even make fun of you behind your back. Therefore, instead of bending over backwards to show you’re good for their friend, you should be free and be yourself. Act the same way you do with your own friends.
Honour their invitation
Make an effort to show up for their events. Doing this indicates that you are interested in knowing and support them. Also, you can invite them to any social gathering organised by you.
Make an effort to get to know them
Try to get to know them. Ask questions, ask about their hobbies and interests. Show genuine interest in wanting to know them and also let them get to know you.
Allow your partner to have alone time with his friends
Don’t be the Siamese couple. The friends may like you but they still want to see their friend like old times. Give your partner that space. Respect their rights to their own social group. Also, avoid texting /calling excessively when they’re spending time with friends.
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