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Getting engaged involves a lot of emotions and is usually followed by lots of planning. Couples do need to figure out how exactly they want to spend the rest of their lives together and do not necessarily have all the answers immediately.
Then the questions come, ever so daunting and sometimes annoying because of how many times they get asked.
If you have friends that are newly engaged, here are some questions that you should hold off on:
So when is the wedding?
Couples’ sarcastic answer: Yesterday
Do you really expect them to know the answer to this question the very next day after they have solidified their intention to be husband and wife? They probably have not consulted their family with suitable dates so don’t get your hopes up in penciling in a date in your diary.
Who is going to be on your train?
Couples’ clap back: Not you
This is a tricky one especially for the ladies because the bride may want to avoid dealing with hurt feelings of friends that didn’t quite make it to the train. It’s just not possible to have all your friends in your bridal party and that’s ok. To answer this question, let them know you haven’t decided yet or tell them it’s a surprise. The message should be delivered with this comment.
Where will you live?
Couples’ clap back: How about on Planet Mars?
This could be a touchy subject especially for couples who have this as an unresolved area of contention especially with financial pressures and mere indecisiveness. Just wait till you get your house warming invitation!
How many children do you want to have?
Couples’ clap back: The result of You-1
This question is the true definition of prying; not everyone is comfortable with discussing intimate details about how they wish to raise a family. Asking this question may hit a nerve especially if the couple have recently found out about infertility issues.
Where is my wedding invite?
Couples’ clap back: In Timbuktu
Chances are that when they are ready to share more information about the wedding and settling into life, they will be comfortable enough to inform you, if you are really someone who needs to be invited to the wedding!
How much are you paying for this?
Couples’ clap back: 1 Million kobo
It is actually rude to ask for details of costs especially if you aren’t that close to the couple. It’s even more inappropriate if you are just looking to find out prices when you have no immediate cause to use the information.
Excitement controls our speech and how we feel but its best to think twice before asking these questions, lest you get labelled an “amebo” or “olofofo” as you will be widely associated with gist mongers and rumour peddlers.