Is marriage on your wish list for 2014? It is definitely normal to want to settle down with your future husband or wife and move on the the next of your life. No doubt, you've heard a VERY mixed bag of experiences and advice when it comes to marriage, but ultimately are you ready for this 'lifetime' commitment? Answer these questions originally posted on africansweetheart.blogspot.co.uk and decide for yourself
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If you believe strongly that you must always have the last say in an argument, you’re not ready for marriage.
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If you don’t like anyone invading your space, you’re not ready.
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If you’re a lady, and you don’t cook or don’t like to, your marriage is not likely to be easy or funny.
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If you always say things exactly how they come to your mind not caring who is hurt, you’re headed for a rocky and ultimately likely to crash marriage.
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If you believe that you’re who you are and no one can change that, you’re not ready.
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If you think about others only when you’ve fully sorted yourself out, you’re not ready.
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If you are so good at holding a grudge and you’ll only let go when you feel like, stay unmarried.
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If you’re a man and you’re not engaged in ventures or a process in time that can financially take care of your immediate family and beyond, you need to give yourself a few more years to be ready.
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If you believe that women at best should be good in bed and kitchen affairs only, you’ll end up having a bitter and subdued wife; stay away.
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If your mind can’t conceive the thought of having a more successful wife, even if it’s temporary, then you have a little growing up to do. Welcome to the real world, stuff happens.
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If as a man, you’re easily swayed and pressurized to do things against your wish, you're not ready for marriage.
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If you have no confidence in your capability and your future, you have no business taking someone else with you.
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If as a man, you don’t have a mentor or leader you follow, listen or defer to, you’re not going to be able to lead your family.
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If you can’t have a wedding ceremony within a budget you can personally afford, give yourself more time. Who says you can’t have 20 guests or less at your wedding? Cut your coat according to your cloth and take responsibility. As a man, you can define how small or large you want your wedding ceremony to be and be able to handle it.
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If you have an anger problem such that you can destroy things when you’re angry, get a therapist to help you through managing it. Otherwise, engage God’s help for the change you seek. With anger issues, you’re disaster waiting to explode.
Originally published on africansweetheart