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There are some things, often cliché, that you should absolutely avoid telling someone who just came out of a relationship with a broken heart. They simply do not need to hear these things at the moment.
Your delivery of certain comments will make or mar your relationship so try to be as empathetic as you can be towards your friend.
Here are some things that you should absolutely avoid telling someone who is heartbroken:
Good riddance
To what? Bad rubbish?
Well, better now than later
Saying this to someone who probably wanted their relationship to work out is counterproductive.
It could have been worse
This implies that the situation your friend went through was not that bad after all, hence, moving on should be easy.
Get over it
Emotions are not that easy to pick and drop; be sensitive towards your friend’s peculiar situation and allow him or her appropriate time to heal.
He doesn’t deserve you, anyone would be lucky to have you
This poses the question: when your friend was in a seemingly happy relationship, did their ex deserve them?
You will meet someone else and thank God it didn’t work out with him
Chances are that when someone comes out of a relationship, they are not thinking of being in a whole new relationship soon after unless they had no genuine feelings for their partner.
There are many fish in the sea
Of course, there are many people to date. Regardless of the fact that as humans, we might be able to connect with more than one person, there comes a time in your relationship that you think you have found your soulmate.
Being wrong about this is simply painful and hearing it from someone else is annoying.
You need to go on dates with other people, let me hook you up
Your friend may need and desire to completely heal first before going on dates with other people. To go on dates, one needs a clear head and an accepting heart. The best thing to do is wait until your friend is over the break-up then you can play cupid.
So what did you learn from this experience?
This may not actually be in the list of top things that one thinks about when they are heartbroken. This beckons that you are implying the person should have never entered such a relationship. It’s also another way of telling your friend “I told you so!”
Even though some of these comments may have elements of truth in them, it is just not the right time to make such references especially as your friend may be in a very emotional state. Spend some time with them if they are open to entertaining guests and let them enjoy your company.