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It can be tough to fully walk away from a past relationship especially if it was a great one but circumstances did not let things blossom into much more.
Many times we make the mistake of dating anyone we are close with but it is good to know that some people are just meant to be friends and impact in our lives while some are meant to be lovers or partners.
That been said, some people have great relationships with their ex even if they are in another relationship, but not everyone can handle such situation so it is always good to consider the other person involved in order not to hurt them. Many like to go back to a familiar pace or person when they are faced with a challenge in a new relationship.
Here are seven tell-tale signs that your partner has not gotten over his/her ex:
1. Reason for the Season
If your partner steals every opportunity to talk about their ex, then he/she is having a hard time moving on. Most times, he/she unknowingly destroys good and special moments by coming up with a story of how his/her Ex acted in a similar situation. To cut the story short, if your partner still celebrates his/her ex like Christmas then you have a lot on your hands because it is really difficult to forget Christmas.
2. If Wishes Were Exes…
This here is the annoying part, this is the point where your partner exhibits his/her comparative and superlative prowess. He/she never fails to compare you with his/her ex at the slightest opportunity; the music you get to subconsciously listen to every time is ‘If Charles irons this gown ehn it will not be like this…’ ‘If Bolanle prepares noodles, it wiggles’ ‘I wish you met Chioma, her beauty is second to none’ etc. It is a red flag if your partner wishes you could be like his/her ex.
3. Let’s-go-a-fishing
If your partner endlessly fishes for information about his/her ex then they are still heavily hung up. When he/she shows unnecessary interest on the places they are visiting, who they are with now and how many followers they have on social media then something is not fully right as your partner needs to come back home with his/her fishing tools and find another trade like focusing on his/her new relationship.
4. A Trip Down Memory Lane
If your partner likes to mentally travel to places he/she has been with an ex and reminiscing on all the good times while you are available then something is wrong because the only form of reminiscing allowed is with you. Him/her needs to change lanes or save you the misery of being a tag-along
5. Souvenir
If your partner still holds on to treasured gifts, artefacts, notes and many more from his/her ex with so much love and passion then he/she is missing his/her ex. It is okay to have keepsakes but when it is at the detriment of the new relationship it has to be done away with.
6. Bridge Builder
It is possible to remain friends with an ex but when the line is crossed then bridges have to be crossed. If your partner decides to build bridges instead of burning them, then he/she is not ready to start something real with you.
7. Flirt Much?
If there is a modicum of flirting going on between your partner and his/her ex, no matter how harmless they might think it is, it is a sure-fire sign that your partner has refused to move on to anywhere especially not to you.