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One of the most important things to know when you have a significant other (with whom you most likely see a future) is that communication is important but quite hard to implement. It is always advisable for you both as a couple to practice this seminal angle of your relationship, if only to serve as a litmus test for your compatibility.
It is indeed true that if communication is a problem from the outset, a lot of things are bound to go wrong down the line. But if this is a hurdle you manage to pass, every other challenge begins to pale. Indeed, communication is the mother ship.
Going by this acknowledgement of the power of communication in any relationship that would metamorphose into the life-long commitment of marriage, here are some topics to discuss with your partner that would clarify your stance in your relationship. This has the potential of setting the base for an enjoyable experience together.
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Personal Goals
In essence, you are two persons planning to become one. However, it would be a lie to deny your individuality also. As much as you plan to spend your lives together, you should be on the same page as regards your personal goals. This is to make sure that your individual personal goals do not conflict with each other, or pose a threat to your collective happiness as a couple.
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Pet peeves
What are those things that annoy you about your partner? Does your partner know how it makes them feel? Is your partner willing to compromise for your sake? Because you spend so much time together, it is easy to notice those little actions that might just annoy you about your partner. Talking about these attitudes could suppress the tension that builds up from only observation and enduring.
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Expectations
It is crucial to the longevity of your relationship to know what both of you expect from each other.
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Love language
Everyone has a peculiar love language. This just serves to show how people are different. Your partner might love getting you, say, mugs with special inscription (which you might secretly loathe). It is important to know this early on, to appreciate the reason and significance behind your partner’s love language.
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Paternity/maternity goals
The question many hate to ask of each other: How many children should we have? You must also ride the same boat on this matter, especially within the confines of your financial and emotional states.
Verbalising these issues- and others that apply- contains an elixir that can rejuvenate and enliven your relationship with each other.