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Not everyone is as open about themselves as you might be but it does not mean that they do not fall in love or have the same desires as outspoken people. Have it at the back of your mind that people do not spill out everything about themselves right at the start of a relationship but gradually.
Yes, it is possible that for some it might take days, months or even years but that does not mean that they are doing something wrong or not in love with you.
It might be hard but it takes times and if you really love your partner then here are 10 ways you can cope with them being secretive and also help them at the same time:
1. Tell your partner how you feel
Do not suffer in silence, communicate to your partner about your feelings and how he/she can do better by sharing more with you. Let them know that you are beginning to worry about the relationship and many more. If you do not communicate, it will be hard for them to know how being secretive affects you.
2. Show enthusiasm for the times when your partner leaves his/her shell
There are times secretive people want to talk to someone and share little; you should cherish those times and show that you care about what goes on in their head. Be positive with your response.
3. Confront your partner
When your partner's secrecy is beginning to give you doubts, then you should confront your partner with love, not like someone prepared for battle as that will only send him/her packing.
4. Be available
Always be emotionally present for your partner as that would show how much you care for them and will also lead to them opening up to you.
5. Trust your partner
It is important that you trust your partner because not all secretive partner is doing something that will hurt you. You just have to trust that he/she loves you wholeheartedly and would do anything to make you happy until proven otherwise.
6. Take the first step
You should lead by example here by sharing with your partner things that are very important to you or things that are bothering you. With time, your partner will unknowingly want to share things with you that means so much. It can start from as little as to how their day went.
7. Reassure your partner
Always let your partner know that you are in the relationship for the long run and you are not going any time soon. Let him/her know that you understand whatever it is that he/she is going through.
8. Seek Counsel
Talk to his/her close friends or even family to help you understand why your partner is secretive especially if he/she grew up that way. But if your partner suddenly becomes secretive after starting a relationship with you then you both have to seek counsel to sort things out especially if he/she is not willing to communicate with you.
9. Love more
Do not love your partner less for this because love is what brought you together in the first place. Continue to do the things that make you both happy and with time your partner will realise the need to do better.
10. Give your partner time
It is not advisable to push your partner to tell you things as you might end up pushing him/her farther away from you. He/she might have been shaped by experiences and definitely needs time to come around and understand that you will always be there.
If after all these there is no form of improvement, you and your partner need to evaluate the relationship and decide what you both want to do and not do.