Our Cultural Difference Was Never A Barrier - Amaka and Ife's Love Story

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This week, Amaka and Ife tell us all about their experience and how they have maintained a beautiful relationship even with though they are from different cultural backgrounds.

 

How Did You Meet?

 

We met at a church youth conference for singles 4 years ago. I think I was really attracted to how, unlike everybody else, he was always asking questions. He seemed very curious and willing to make his next relationship work out - Amaka

 

She was seated next to me during this conference. I was very mesmerized by her smile and infectious laughter. She commented a lot on the questions I asked after the host had answered them. I think at some point we started murmuring so much that we started getting concerned that we won't get anything from the conference - Ife

 

What Happened Next?

 

I couldn't just let a good woman go like that. I got her number oh. Even though I knew we liked each other, my heart was still beating like; what if she says No? - Ife

(laughs) Honestly, If Ife didn't ask for my number that day, I'd have found a way to give it to him, because our connection that day was just out of this world - Amaka

 

Tell us about Your First Date

 

It seemed like we were soulmates from another dimension. I remember that we talked for so long that when we checked the time, we were both shocked at the hours we had spent together - Ife

Four words (laughs) BUTTERFLIES IN MY BELLY - Amaka

 

Did you Immediately Tell Friends and Family?

 

For me, it wasn't immediate. I needed to be sure It was real, but most importantly, I needed to find a way to convince my family that I was involved with a Yoruba man - Amaka

 

I was very willing to tell the world about her, but she asked that we take it slow. I won't lie, that statement kind of tugged at my heart. Eventually, when she started explaining and from all that we experienced, I understood her reason - Ife

 

 

You're Married Now, What Was Your Family's First Reaction?

(laughs) It wasn't funny at all. I was almost disowned. It took the intervention of the church to convince my dad especially. Till now, I still think he feels betrayed. There was no insult I didn't get. It really took a toll on my mental health - Amaka

 

My parents were just excited that I was finally getting married. It was a tough period for both of us, especially for her, because we were not planning on getting married without both our parents' blessing. At some point, I was so tempted to ask that we run away and marry someplace new - Ife

 

 

Do You Still Have These Issues?

Ife and I are like 5 and 6. Asides the snide remarks from my family, we're good. I've also learned to not let their words or actions get to me - Amaka

I couldn't have wished for what I got. Sometimes, I have doubts that I actually prayed for someone like her. She's really strong and yeah, asides her family, no issues at all - Ife

 

 

How Do You Plan On Moving Forward?

Nothing special. We will just keep doing what we're currently doing. Hopefully, God touches everyone's heart. I do my best to protect her from anything that will affect her peace of mind - Ife

 

Just like he said. (laughs) I can't imagine letting any external thing being my downfall - Amaka

 

 

What Lesson Has Love Taught You?

Don't give up on the person you care about the most - Amaka

 

Love always wins. If it doesn't, run away to where you'll both be happy (laughs) - Ife

Written by SWP editor