Pre-wedding jitters, cold feet, bridal nerves: they all mean the same thing – sweaty palms, quickening heartbeat, a little fear, maybe even a mini breakdown. They can start from right after the proposal, or wait until the big day to show up.
If you’re very nervous but at the same time excited about getting married to this person, congratulations – you have pre-wedding jitters and they are normal. You are taking a life-changing step after all (no pressure!) and this article will help you with ways to calm your nerves.
If on the other hand, you have been filled with trepidation and dread for over a month, you have to take a look at your relationship. If this person is violent, deceitful or unfaithful, has a drug or alcohol problem, is very disrespectful of you, or differs with you on whether or not to have children at all; do not go ahead with it just to avoid embarrassment (Now you see why we said ‘Congratulations’ earlier).
Right then, getting over pre-wedding jitters:
• Write down your fears. It may surprise you that they seem insignificant on paper. If they do not,
• Talk to someone that cares. A wise friend, a parent, a happily married couple... Talking by itself is therapeutic, and you’ll get comforting words too.
• Take a break from wedding planning. Yes, you want everything to be perfect, but striving for perfection will only bring undue anxiety. Some things won’t go as planned. That’s life. The important thing is you get hitched to the love of your life. So take a break, get pampered at the spa, see a movie and eat something nice, relaxxxx.
• Remember the beginning. How you first met, your first date, when you realised you wanted to be with this person. All those warm feelings will melt away the stress that is giving you cold feet.
• Rekindle the romance. Take your future spouse out or stay in and have a relaxing wedding-free date. This person is why you’re getting married. Nothing else.
On the big day, try these tips:
• Dance with your bridesmaids. If you’re a nervous wreck that morning, gather your bridesmaids around for a quick boogie and literally shake off those jitters.
• Take a moment alone. Breathe, say a quick prayer, walk a little bit and chill out.
• Call Boo. He has your medicine. Hehe. A few tender words from him and we’re sure you’ll be racing off to marry that man.
• Have a drink. Yep, some liquid courage. ONE very small glass of wine or a LITTLE SIP of something stronger. No more. Just make sure it’s a clear liquid so you don’t stain your dress!